
Yesterday I was watching Dr Phil and his show was on Baby Wars
. There was a young man on the show that has filed a lawsuit about his constitutional right to avoid being a father. It is being called a Roe V Wade for Men. In a nut shell, she said she could not get pregnant & was on the pill. He didn’t use protection and she became pregnant. He believes since he didn’t want to be a father that he should have a choice when she was pregnant, ie abortion or adoption. She is now receiving $500 in child support, he feels like he should not have to pay, because he was not given an option about the child.
All I have to say is this, he did make a choice when he decided not to wear a condom and now there is a baby, he can sign away his rights and be done with it. Not do all this public hoopla and in my opinion embarrass himself!
That poor baby, he wants nothing to do with her and has never held her or talked to her. I feel so bad for her.
I was reading the message boards on Dr Phil’s website and there are several good points on either side. A couple of quotes that I found really profound.
“At the end of the day it comes down to responsibility. Children don’t ask to be born into a legal battle. If you don’t want a child - don’t have unprotected sex.”
“Sex is fun, and sex makes babies. If you are really opposed to having children, then you should not be having sex. ”
“What if we start thinking about the tables being turned? What if the man wants the baby but the woman wants to have an abortion? What then? If women have choices, men should have choices. We as women want to be equals. We have fought for so long, and are still fighting, for our rights to be considered equals. Yet, we want to have the rules one way when it’s in our favor and the other way when it’s not??!! We can’t have it both ways. We either consider the child a child and treat this child as if it were out of the womb OR we decide it’s a choice and it’s not a child until post-womb. We can’t have both. We can’t be selfish just because it’s our bodies, just because we’re the womb. Either it’s a choice or it’s not! After that is decided, then if it’s a choice the man should have his choice, if it’s not a choice and it’s a child, then a father he should be able to refuse or use his parental rights!”
I guess at the end of the day a person has to look at themselves & be happy with what they see. In this incident, down the road I am not sure if this guy will be able to do that. Although he could be as cold in real life as he came off in the show and be totally ok.
It will be interesting to see how things unfold.